Love and Money?

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  1. EyesExist

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    For those with money and families... and making over $150k annually...

    I need your wisdom.

    I keep getting the same thing from every girl these days I date.. "i know a lot of women comes with this type of lifestyle"

    I mean.. sheesh.. I'm handsome.. skin well maintained from this salt water breeze that caresses my skin daily...... and know how to lick and 'hook it' then signal to come here to make them go crazy but .. hey.. it's the money that seems to really bother women.

    And now that my last one called me out. And i was like "no. i'm really chill"... then she gets my tablet.. and wow..... 3 exes talking to me....... i had to admit to, luckily she didn't question me on about 5 or 6 other girls i had slept with.. sheeeesh. I was like wow... I really am a savage.

    Not complaining Just from some of you old Vikings of travel of the board. Did you ever find love and money easy to combine?

    I really like girls but sometimes I do sort of 'itemize' them I feel and willing to upgrade for the latest model, as soon as a better pair of Ferragamo loafers come out.

    Tips?
     
  2. Flex

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    I had love before I had money personally. My love rode with me to where I am today, and financially we are in a very good place. We own a commercial real estate holding company (both land & buildings), a physical business, and our internet properties.
     
  3. Ryuzaki

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    #NoNewFriends

    If you want to not deal with paranoia and make sure people like you for YOU, then you have to hide your financial well being at first.

    If you're running around and people know how wealthy you are just by looking at you, your clothes, your jewelry, your car, then you're flaunting it somehow or bragging, and it's your fault you can't find authentic love.

    Because even peasants can lease and make payments on a balling car. I've known single-wide trailer families that owned 4 and 5 cars far nicer than I've ever had, for example. Their clothes are nice, everything outward facing says "rich and wealthy" but the truth is they are poor. They have the opposite problem you have, and you could fix it by isolating that kind of behavior and only displaying it around other wealthy friends. Otherwise just fit in and you can remove that glossy layer from over people's eyes and they can get to know you for you and not for what they hope to get out of you.
     
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  4. EyesExist

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    Are any of you dating women who had equal success?

    Or are you the clear cut breadwinner and caretaker?

    I'm debating which way to go in life. I'm pretty sure I'm austistic in some ways and lack emotion and so high with logic, finding trust is almost impossible.
     
  5. Steve Brownlie

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    You know what you're really looking for is someone who understands you. Forgives you. Loves you for who you are. Guys like us, with 'the fire' aren't equipped to date someone who needs a guy who 'entertains them' etc... we can't. We have 'the fire', we're working towards that goal. Only a small percentage of women get it but they are out there.
     
  6. Michael

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    #RealTalk

    My other half understands that until I am making what I consider a full time wage in my country, it's grind time. But I only really see her on weekends so I keep weekends free from work (fit in what I can when I can).
     
  7. Concept

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    Here is what I can see.

    Firstly, figure out what you want in a relationship. Do you want to screw around and date multiple women, or are you looking for that one woman that makes you buzz? Quality or quantity? Nothing wrong with either choice, but you need to figure out what you want at this point in time.

    If you want quantity, own it. Be straight with women that you are just in it for fun and nothing serious. It will be better and easier for both of you in the long run.

    If you truly are looking for a relationship with one woman, then this is where things get fun. Figure out what you want in a woman. Both physically and mentally.

    Ask yourself, what does you perfect woman look like? What is she passionate about? What does she love? How does she act around you? How does she act around others?

    Get detailed. Write it down if you need to.

    Then ask yourself, where would I find this woman?

    Would she be out clubbing, or would she more likely be in a library? Would she be found in a spin class, or at a martial arts class? Would she be found at a latin dancing class, or a life drawing class?

    Where would she be...then go there. Even better if you like to go there too :smile:

    Now, what about the money thing?

    Don't mention how much you make.
    In fact, likely it won't come up in the conversation for a while. If she asks what you do you can say you do Digital Marketing or something broad along those lines. What's more likely is you will be so caught up in the other interests that it won't come up.

    However saying that, if all you have to talk about is money, then the issue isn't women...it's you.

    If that's you, then get interesting. Discover hobbies. Do some personal development stuff. Be adventurous. Get passionate about stuff.

    Also, being the bread winner is irrelevant in a relationship. Roles often change over time. However, for example, if you are passionate about business and money, and she is passionate about saving the environment, then likely you will be earning more money.

    But that doesn't matter.

    What matters is who you are for each other. You are a team. In soccer, some people are scoring the goals, whilst others are the goalkeeper. Both are equally important. What matters is you work together so you win as a team.
     
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    ^^ This. Luckily, I found someone before everything was built up. As people said, stop making your relationships about money and focus on connecting - sounds like a E-Harmony commercial but it's true.

    Don't tell people you meet about your money. It's like celebrities that have a huge entourage when they're rich and famous and when they lose their money and fame, the people scatter like mice. You'll always want to be able to confidently know that your girl will stay with you if you lost everything tomorrow.

    Sounds like you're a young dude so if you haven't found THE one yet, then go out and have fun dude.
     
  9. EyesExist

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    I'm not that young honestly.

    I'm from a very basic background that had struggle, so I relate better to women who have had a struggle. I've noticed this about myself. However, that 'struggle' usually means that person has not seen the heights of what I've seen and what entertains me is seen as 'opulent' or 'rich' by them.

    And also, I'm HARD driven to do life 100% the best possible way. Body clean. Mind Clean. Always adventuring. VERY honest.

    Favorite lines from girls, that i hate to hear:
    "You're too perfect"
    "Look at how you live.... "

    But i'm not changing. I rather wait and see what life brings to me. Everything else landed right.

    You guys even dated the 'model' type or a girl you built up into something greater?
     
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    Is this a troll account?

    Though I imagine you won't answer "yes" if it is.
     
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  11. EyesExist

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    LOL
    No.. You guys think i'm joking.

    I'm one those people who are extremely talented in earning and building relationships but outside of that......

    how i think.. analyze.. and say things outside of business... it's just as bad as you're thinking when you ask if i'm a troll

    I dont register things emotional without first a logical computation of all

    Just the other day a girl i liked told me I called her a hooker, alcoholic, and something else.......... in 'other words'........ and I liked her... but jesus........ i just find it a funny story of the past. I was trying not to laugh half the time but she might have noticed when I was turning away awkwardly.

    I'm just trying to find control of it all. A forum like this helps b/c I know some have had similar experiences in terms of success.... finding self control.. etc

    Not a problem getting women... I'm He-man. But i'm trying to find responsibility because I had no guidance.

    Sorry if I bug you guys.
     
  12. Nat

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    Man, Love and Religion is what keeps fucking me over.

    Didn't wanna start a thread, just wanted to vent, this seemed like a good place.

    /end rant
     
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  13. EyesExist

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    I'm starting to think... Love only fucks us over when we don't learn to forgive the people who choose to stay with us, even when they are in the wrong.
     
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    At this point I don't even care about women, I just want to build my website and make cash
     
  15. Court Jester

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    When you have depth, love combines easily with money. You lack depth which is why you keep running in to the same "girls"

    Learn the lessons to build your depth or learn to enjoy the shallow existence. Either way works.

    If you want to build depth, you will need to drop your acts and expose your fear of being seen as a fraud and a nobody. There are many ways to melt the plastic world. Solid artists (production plus originality) are good at this. Watch a few talks/interviews with Tom Sachs--the one with Adam Savage is decent.

    Notice the lack of cliche. The odd coupling of words. How his sentences must be unpacked and reveal incredible depth. I look at your paragraphs and they look like they are spun content from a pick-up forum. Have any of your close friends or family told you that they would like to hear from YOU? To drop the act? Do you have close guy friends or a mentor that has incredible character? If so, ask them and listen. Deeply. Then do battle with your beliefs. Notice all the bullshit that you think and mimic that is a smash up of what other people are saying. Notice what is wrong with your life. Take inventory of what you could change. Then, what you are willing to change. Then change a few things. Watch how that plays out in your life. Do more of that.

    You are unable to find that type of relationship because you don't fit with it. Every one of us must face this at some point. We choose to engage or ignore.
     
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